Tuesday, April 28, 2009
Monday, April 27, 2009
Beth, call me! I miss you!
(I apologize for the commercial the kicks this off, but it is worth it!)
Love you Beth! As the song says, "it's lonely on my only, without you!"
Sunday, April 26, 2009
Thursday, April 23, 2009
I made Kyle get up with him, because if I do, it's all over. Connor will not go back to sleep in his bed once I hold him, because apparently I'm more comfortable than his bed (I love this.), although mommy needs her sleep too. Kyle can get him back to sleep in 10 minutes, although he continued to fuss and cry, ever so slightly, off and on until I finally got out of bed at 4:30.
The house has been quiet since I finished getting ready, so it's time for my computer and I to bond. Minutes of peace are hard to come by these days. When I do get some peace and quiet, I usually find myself on Facebook or blogging.
Sometimes I come across a blog that just strikes me at that moment.
I have a few friends I work with that either are contemplating becoming mothers, or are expecting a child. Every time I see someone pregnant with their first child, I want to go up and hug them, and just start spewing advice, in my bossy way. "Take lots of naps!" and "Enjoy every smile and take lots of pictures! When they are 3, you won't believe that they were once 6 pounds!". The advice that I can't convey though, is everything else.
I'm posting a link to this blog post "On Motherhood" because it made me pause, reflect, and just bawl. How accurately she is capturing "the rest" of Motherhood, that can't be conveying until you're smack in the middle of it. Thank you, Mr. Lady.
Monday, April 20, 2009
Tyler last summer on Grandpa's boat, in the Mr. Sippy
Sunday, April 19, 2009
A voice in the back of my head said "Are you kidding me? The mall with these boys?" But, I met up with them there, and then the fun began.
First off, both boys are exhausted! Neither got a nap over 1/2 hour yesterday, and both were up before 6:30 this morning. Tyler has golfed the past 3 days in a row, and Connor would not go to sleep until almost 8pm last night - which was WAY too late for him with that short of a nap!
We knew our life would change after having kids. Of course - you now have a kid. We just were not prepared with how much it would change. Going out to eat is definitely a thing of the past with the kids. It's just not fun. Even the food court is challenging.
Tyler will actually sit now, for short periods of time. Connor will only sit if restrained, or so freaking hungry that he will eat whatever is set in front of him. That's what we had today - a confining high chair and a kid that couldn't open his mouth wide enough to shove the food in.
Kyle and Tyler got their Chicken Teriyaki that they always get. Today, Connor and I got Subway. I literally had to bear hug him while standing in line to keep him from crawling over the counter. His shoe fell off, and he accidentally ripped my glasses off my face. By the time we sat down to eat, I was sweating.
After eating, which lasted about 3 minutes, we got up to leave. I had Connor in my left arm, and some trash in my right arm. It was all I could do to keep him from flipping himself on to the floor, while he screamed "airplane, airplane!", and pointed at the picture of the airplane on the ceiling. Kyle and Tyler left in his car, I was taking Connor in mine.
I decided an ice cream cone would be fun. Connor loves ice cream, and okay, I do too! One thing I forgot to take into account was that I was carrying a 35 pound almost 2 year old in my arm too. Have you tried to put a kid into a carseat with one arm? Yea, it doesn't work too well.
We keep trying these outings, maybe hoping that someday things will be back to "normal". But you know what, things won't be back to normal ever. We're the new us. We're the 4 of us, that used to be 2. And although it's difficult sometimes, and frustrating sometimes, we just take it all in stride. Sometimes it makes me laugh so hard, it's all worth it!
Thursday, April 16, 2009
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
Tyler started this activity, and Connor had to quickly follow. They had such a good time stacking the cushions and standing on them, jumping on them, and pushing them around!
Sunday, April 12, 2009
Yes, that is Tyler in mid-air, so happy he found an egg with money in it!
This is Connor eating his 27th Reece's Peanut Butter Cup. He's going to detox tomorrow.
We had great fun, and tons of great food! That is one thing you can count on going to the Stanfield's for Easter, is that there is never a food shortage. I think Norma bought 2 hams - or else that was the biggest freaking pig ever.
I had to find a new hiding spot for the candy that is left, or else the boys will be eating candy for breakfast. I'm pretty certain we will have at least one tantrum before I leave for work in the morning (Tyler) because he wants candy for breakfast. Connor has completely forgotton about his candy, but I will bet that is the first question Tyler asks me when he sees me in the morning. "Can I have some candy?" How much you want to bet?!
Hope everyone had a Happy Easter!
Thursday, April 9, 2009
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
And just in case you didn't get a view of them, here is Connor eating supper...in pigtails
He looked so cute! Apparently, they were fixing some of the girls hair at daycare, and Connor was very interested in what they were doing. When Vanessa asked him if he wanted his hair done to0, apparently he nodded his head up and down. They actually look a bit like antennas, but he thought they were cool!
This same boy though had quite a rough night. He's certainly entered the "Terrible Twos", and hand tantrum after tantrum after tantrum. I think he cried or whined all night long. Then when it was time for bed, he fought that too. He's actually still fighting it, and it is about a half hour past his normal bedtime.
Such a cute little boy, but oh, is he going to challenge us. Tyler definitely had his ideas of what he wanted to do, but wasn't quite as persistent. Connor will not give up for anything, and there is no such thing as telling this boy "No". It's going to be rough as a child with him, but I'm really looking forward to what this brings with him as an adult. Pigtails and all! (I think this will be an excellent High School Graduation Picture!)
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
Connor is at the age where when we go "nite nite", we go to his room and I rock him for about 3 minutes. This 3 minutes is his transition from running around the living room, into going to sleep. I turn the lights off, turn the sound machine one (which drowns out the noise that Tyler and Kyle - the two noisiest people in the world) are still making, and I usually start his Rainforest machine that starts some cute, relaxing music.
Then we sit in the chair.
It's sitting in the chair when the most amazing thing happens. I swear, my mind starts swimming with thoughts. Without distractions, other noise, and constant interruptions, I can actually complete a thought. And it's amazing what I think about.
Usually, I think about stuff at work. Work has been so crazy lately, I actually today looked down to check and see if I had a matching pair of shoes on - after I got to work. I feel that overwhelmed. Sometimes I think about someone I forgot to call back (I'm horrible at that - they should just take my phone off my desk), a project I'm working, or even what I'm going to wear to work the next day (including the shoes!).
Sometimes the thoughts become more random. Tonight I thought about what my parents, sister and I use to do after a day at the beach. (I have NO idea where this thought came from). I have such good memories of going to the beach, then going home and taking a shower to get cleaned up, then heading to Godfather's Pizza for pizza and pop. Actually, I didn't like pizza and pop (still don't love it to this day - but will eat it), but I loved the act of going there, with my family. It was always the end of a perfect day.
I love the "thinking time" I get in the evenings. I always tell myself that the next time I do this, I should bring a paper and pen with me to capture the things that I can't continue to forget, and even some of the random thoughts that I wonder why I'm thinking.
I have wonderful memories of my mom laying with me in bed as I went to sleep. Actually, I didn't sleep - I would usually talk her ear off, but I loved it. Sometimes I forget that I'm creating these memories for my boys, while I'm reliving my own.
Sunday, April 5, 2009
I wouldn't have said that 10 years ago. Back then, wrestling was for total losers that didn't have anything else to do with their life. Then my sister got me hooked on it. Yes, my sister, who was dating one of the HUGEST wrestling fans of all time. From 1998 to 1999 I went to two WCW matches in Chicago and one in Cedar Rapids. Yea, it was silly, but so much fun.
Saturday, April 4, 2009
I knew Kyle wanted to golf, and my mother-in-law would love to see Connor, so we made a deal. I took Tyler to his birthday parties (which is fun for me), while Kyle got to golf (fun for him!), and my mother-in-law got to hang out with Connor (fun for her!). Everybody won!
I really start thinking about Tyler's future when I see him with his friends like that. He's quite an aggressive kid (and oh my god loud), and can get quite mean if he wants. I watched him push a girl down - a complete stranger by the way while her parents looked on - talk about embarrassing!!! Is he going to be a bully? Is he going to be a protector (when he learns to get his emotions under control), or what? Tonight he went to sleep with 15 stuffed animals on his bed - is he going to be the caring one?
I work with people that have kids that are honor students and spending the semester visiting a foreign country. I also work with people that have kids with drug problems, kids that are going to (or are in) jail, or have 15 year olds with babies. How do I set Tyler's future in the right direction so we can end up with option A, rather than B?
Okay, okay - for all of you that know us, I doubt our kids will be pushing themselves into AP classes in high school, but they may push themselves to be on the golf team, basketball team or football team. All which require a decent GPA and good behavior (just ask Kirk Ferentz).
I think about this every day. How can I be shaping my children's future so they are proud of who they are, proud of who we are, and proud of their own futures?